Monday, January 11, 2010

Dear Jennifer Lopez...

Thanks for your recent thoughts on IF treatments

"When it comes to family and relationships, I’m quite traditional," the star, 40, tells the February issue of Ellemagazine. "Just because of the way I was raised. And I also believe in God and I have a lot of faith in that, so I just felt like you don't mess with things like that."
Lopez -- who is mother to 22-month-old twins Max and Emme with hubby Marc Anthony -- portrays a woman who decides to have a baby through artificial insemination in the upcoming romantic comedy, The Back-Up Plan. Still, she doesn't believe the process is for her.
"I guess deep down, I really felt like either this is not going to happen for me or it is," she tells Elle. "You know what I mean? And if it is, it will. And if it's not, it’s not going to."

What great insight. I guess I just wasn’t raised "traditionally" you know since we can't seem to have kids the "traditional way". Perhaps if only we'd have more faith in God, we wouldn't have had to, "mess with things like that." 

I hate to break it to you but no amount of faith or belief in God changes our reality in regards to our infertility. If it did I think we'd have a pretty good chance considering my current vocational path, but alas no such luck. 

And can I just tell you how great it is that you're going to portray a woman who uses donor sperm to conceive twins even though "the process is just not for you." I can respect that. I mean the process wasn't really for me either, I'm pretty sure it's not really for anyone, but well turns out that we (my husband and I) in all our non-tradition didn't have a choice in the matter. 

So again thanks for your thoughts. They weren't condescending and ridiculous at all. Congrats on being able to conceive your twins the "traditional way" without "messing with things like that" if only we could all be so lucky. Perhaps in the future it would be beneficial to recognize your own good fortune without implying a whole lot about those who are not so lucky. 

P.S. not that it matters but there are many who claim you actually did use IF treatments to have your twins. I don't care one way or another and respect your right to be private about it, but if you did your statements are even more hurtful. 

Me, an apparent non-traditional, mother of twins, who "messed with things like that" 

1 comment:

~Jess said...

GRRRRR....I used to really like her...then not so much after the denials with her twins...and now I really can't stand her.