Saturday, July 11, 2009

9 weeks (one week adjusted yesterday)

We survived another week. Thank you everyone for you comments/suggestions/advice on my last post I so appreciate them all. We did try several of the things that were suggested. They still don't really like their bouncy seats I'm hoping that maybe when they're a little bigger it'll be something they enjoy but at the moment they'll tolerate one for about 10 minutes and then they're done... and when they're done, they're totally completely done and they start screaming. So for the moment bouncy seats are not so helpful.

My sister just bought the babies a swing and we're hopeful that it will help calm at least one baby when I'm home alone and both seem to want attention. We've only had it for a day so it's too soon to see if it's something that will work but we're hopeful at least. Finally thursday night when Marcus had to close at work I had a friend come over to hold a baby and we watched a movie. Then Friday night I had three friends come over and they all love to hold the babies so both Marcus and I had a bit of break between each feeding. It's so nice just to have some extra hands.

We're hanging in there, with just a few breakdowns on my part.

In happy baby news Emerson smiled yesterday for the first time. I was holding her and talking and she gave me the biggest smile. Then later she smiled at the rattle I was shaking. So cute.

Finally, I started the 30 day shred yesterday. It was so hard and I have to say it was not a pretty sight watching me attempt some of the exercises. Clearly the bedrest and the babies have left me without any muscle capacity at all. I couldn't do a pushup (I tried and collapsed haha), sit-ups were just as impossible, and a few jumping jacks had me wanting to lay down and die. I have never been this out of shape. I can never remember a time in my life when I couldn't do a push-up. Marcus held the babies on the couch and watched/laughed/motivated. He's very helpful... I might have also used two cans of soup as my weights (I was desperate) overall it was a pretty ridiculous experience. Later, Marcus did go out and buy me some actual hand weights because he found the cans of soup just a little too ridiculous.

I'm totally sore today but it was nice to actually do something, especially since it's baby friendly, and I can do it in my living room. Now I just need to stay motivated and find the strength to attempt day two. We'll see how it goes.

Now I'm off to eat and hopefully nap before the next feeding.


Becks said...

Hi! So, I just read through your entire blog. Wow! You and those little babies are troopers!

Here are some helpful websites about infant GERD:

Some on milk/soy protein allergy:

Postpartum Depression:

Becks said...

Ok, one last comment, and then my husband and some require my attention:

If you read through my blog (the baby James category) you can read more about what I've been through. James was delivered 4 week early because I had severe preeclampsia (it really sucked), and I didn't talk about it much on the blog, but I was basically on easy bedrest (I could still walk around and stuff) for most of the pregnancy, but I couldn't work. I have a lot of health issues.

Anyway, I hope this is helpful: After going through the difficult pregnancy delivery, the reflux, and the extreme colic, and the MSPI, and the breastfeeding issues (it took 9 weeks for him to latch!) I was a mess. I was getting up every 1.5 hours all night long, the baby cried all day, and whenever the baby started crying, I started crying. Sobbing. Ignoring the baby because I was crying so hard.

The most important thing I learned was that you HAVE to take care of yourself first, so that you can take care of your babies. You have to eat. You have to take a shower. You have to take breaks from the babies and go for a walk EVERY DAY and clear your mind. You have to go to the doctor and get on medication if you are beginning to experience depression.

I wasn't able to figure out what James really needed (and I only have one baby!) until I was taking care of myself. Once I started taking better care of myself, I was able to take a step back and be like "wait a minute. Having a baby is supposed to be hard, but not THIS hard. Babies are supposed to cry alot, but not THIS much. I should be feeling happy about this little miracle sometimes! I should be enjoying being a mom, even if it's hard sometimes."

If you have to let the babies cry while you take a shower or eat something, that's ok. Crying is just how babies talk to us, it doesn't always mean something is wrong, or that they are sad.

I hope that helps!

Becks said...

Hey I hope you guys are doing well! I've had you on my mind the past couple of days and have been praying for your little family :)

If there's anything I can help you with... from 3000 miles away... shoot me a message:

~Jess said...

YAY for another week! That's great that you were able to start exercising's amazing how quickly our bodies get out of shape.

Hopefully the swing from your sister helps out with the crying and makes the babies a bit easier to deal with.